Saturday, January 26, 2008

Trying to be My Best Self

Stuff happens, people do things that are baffling. I'm trying really hard to deal with everything that comes my way with honesty, tact, and compassion.

One tool that really helps is "The Four Agreements". This is an excellent book by don Miguel Ruiz.

Here are the Four Agreements:

BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY: Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS: Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST: Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.


Isn't that inspiring??? Now, if I can only remember them all the time!

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Hi Joni,

I was wandering around the TLC Digest and ran across your blog. I really needed to re-read the Four Agreements today. Its been awhile since I've looked over them. I think I will post them on our refridgerator for all of us!

Thomas (15) mentioned yesterday that he would like to get together with the highschoolers, and I can't remember how old yours are...?

My email is crevolaa@onid.orst.edu if you want to write.

Take care and keep on blogging!

--Amy