From Beth Fuller at Peaceful Partnerships (an amended version of a challenge Maisha issued last night):
1) Treat your partner with respect, kindness, compassion, and love. Assume that their issues are not about you, but are instead about their own pain.
2) Greet them and speak to them as though they are the most wonderful person on Earth (because they are). If you are able, recharge your sex life.
3) Say absolutely nothing negative about them for 30 days. Find your own way of keeping track all of the positive things that they do each day. If you feel a negative criticism going on, perhaps you could try writing it down. After the 30 days, review the positive things and release the negative ones.
4) Offer them lots of love in their own primary love language. For good measure, offer them an abundance of ALL the love languages.
5) If your partner rages or retreats be compassionate and offer them what they need-- a hug, for you to be a mountain (quiet, strong, present with him), etc. Just hold them in your heart even if they do not melt.
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